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<h1 style="text-align: center;">SUMMARY - Ch-003 - the force that shapes your life</h1>
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<p><strong>-Humans are not random creatures. Everything we do is done for a reason.</strong><br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -The driving forces that controls us are pain and pleasure.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -Everything you and I do, we do either out fo need to avoid pain or our desire to gain pleasure.</p>
<p><strong>-On procrastination</strong><br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -Why don&rsquo;t you do the things you know will benefit you?<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -Even though you know the action would benefit you, you fail to act simply because in that moment you associate more pain to doing what&rsquo;s necessary than missing the opportunity.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -For most people, the fear of loss is much greater than the desire for gain.</p>
<p><strong>-Emotional Threshold</strong><br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -The point where you hit a level of pain that you aren&rsquo;t willing to settle for anymore.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -This is GREAT. The pain will now drive us to take new action and produce new results.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -The desire to remove pain from your life.</p>
<p>-We learn in life, what creates pain and what creates pleasure.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -This is highly subjective. </p>
<p>-What you link pain to and what you link pleasure to shapes your destiny.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -If we link massive pain to any behavior or emotional pattern, we will avoid<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; indulging in it at all costs. We can use this understanding to harness the force of pain and pleasure to change virtually anything in our lives. <br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -&ldquo;If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to you own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment&rdquo; Marcus Aurelius.</p>
<p>-What drives our behavior is instinctive reaction to pain and pleasure, not intellectual calculation.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -We are not driven so much by what we know intellectually, but rather by what we&rsquo;ve learned to link pain and pleasure to in our nervous systems.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -Although we&rsquo;d like to believe it&rsquo;s our intellect that really drives us, in most cases our emotions are what truly drive us.</p>
<p>-In order for change to last, we must link pain to our old behavior and pleasure to our new behavior.</p>
<p>-We can learn to condition our minds, bodies, and emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our behaviors.</p>
<p>-Any time we&rsquo;re in an intense emotional state, when we&rsquo;re feeling strong sensations of pain or pleasure, anything unique that occurs consistently will become neurologically linked.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -Ex. Pavlov&rsquo;s dogs.</p>
<p>-Be aware of the power that pleasure and pain have over every decision you make.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -&ldquo;I conceive that pleasures are to be avoided if greater pains be the consequence, and pains to be coveted that will terminate in greater pleasures&rdquo; Michel De Montaigne.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -Most of us base what we do off of our short term views rather than our long term views.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -It&rsquo;s not actual pain that drives us, but our fear of something will lead to pain. And it&rsquo;s not actual pleasure that drives us, but our belief that somehow taking a certain action will lead&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; to&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; pleasure.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -We are not driven by reality, but by our perception of reality.<br />-Remember anything you want that&rsquo;s valuable requires that you break through some short term pain in order to gain long term pleasure. Any type of discipline requires breaking through pain.</p>
<p>-Why do people persist in an unsatisfying relationship, unwilling to work toward solutions or end it and move on? It&rsquo;s because they know changing will lead to the unknown, and most people believe that the unknown will be much more painful than what they&rsquo;re already experiencing.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp; -Most of the things that are valuable in our lives require us to go against the basic conditioning of our nervous systems.</p>
<p><strong>Exercises</strong><br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -Write down four actions that you need to take that you&rsquo;ve been putting off.<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -Under each action, write down the answer to the following question:<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -Why haven&rsquo;t I taken action?<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -In the past, what pain have I linked to taking this action?<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -Write down all the pleasure you&rsquo;ve had in the past by indulging in this negative pattern<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -Write down what it will cost you if you don&rsquo;t change. (Use pain as your friend).<br /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -Write down all the pleasure you&rsquo;ll receive by taking each of these actions right now.<br /> -Carpe Diem!</p>
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